It is the abrupt changes that I struggle with. Both of us are heading to 77 and the last year has thrown several bodily structural hiccups. We just don’t bounce back quickly these days. I now am limited to the third step of any ladder, sometimes I live dangerously and go as high as the fourth step but Ido look for the softest spot to fall. Fortunately, we have a great son-in-law who comes about once a month dealing with anything that requires climbing to the top of the ladder. Adjustments to living with bodily limitations are hard but I do remind myself that maybe it is time to step back so that others can step up. Glad your mom is doing better.
I know, right? It's like your body starts to betray you. I like the third step rule--Melissa now has Miniere's disease which creates dizziness. I hate it when she gets on a ladder! And I love this:stepping back so others can stop up.
Your mother is so fortunate to have such attentive and loving daughters. And when I consider the monumental changes I’ve seen you embrace in your life, it’s not easy to see how you might be change-averse. Ref. “Kicking and screaming?” On the farm……no one can hear you scream 🤣
God bless your mom. To be in her 90s and undergoing big changes takes a lot of courage. God bless her daughters. It takes courage and finesse to mother your mother. Been on both sides of the coin and it ain't fun! Good luck to you all!
The only constant in life is change. When I was growing up my mother hated with a passion change : if the cookie jar broke it had to be replaced with one exactly like it, etc. Etc. So as a kid, I vowed to embrace change and go with the flow. Now, it doesn't mean I don't miss some parts of "the old" days, but look to the new opportunities.
Question for all of us: is change more welcome when we instigate it, when we choose it? I am 60, and nearly 2 years ago chose to end a 25 year relationship. It took me a while to make that change, but am now more active in my community and with my friends. I am happier!
What a huge change! Sounds like it worked out well. You might have something there--change we choose might be easier. In tarot one of the hardest cards is the Tower card. It's a tower being destroyed by lightning. The idea is that if there is a change you need to make but aren't making it, the Universe will do it for you and it will be difficult and traumatic. My mother had a Tower moment--she was really dragging her heels about moving from her house to an apartment, so the Universe did it for her.
It is the abrupt changes that I struggle with. Both of us are heading to 77 and the last year has thrown several bodily structural hiccups. We just don’t bounce back quickly these days. I now am limited to the third step of any ladder, sometimes I live dangerously and go as high as the fourth step but Ido look for the softest spot to fall. Fortunately, we have a great son-in-law who comes about once a month dealing with anything that requires climbing to the top of the ladder. Adjustments to living with bodily limitations are hard but I do remind myself that maybe it is time to step back so that others can step up. Glad your mom is doing better.
I know, right? It's like your body starts to betray you. I like the third step rule--Melissa now has Miniere's disease which creates dizziness. I hate it when she gets on a ladder! And I love this:stepping back so others can stop up.
Your mother is so fortunate to have such attentive and loving daughters. And when I consider the monumental changes I’ve seen you embrace in your life, it’s not easy to see how you might be change-averse. Ref. “Kicking and screaming?” On the farm……no one can hear you scream 🤣
So true...!
God bless your mom. To be in her 90s and undergoing big changes takes a lot of courage. God bless her daughters. It takes courage and finesse to mother your mother. Been on both sides of the coin and it ain't fun! Good luck to you all!
Thank you!
The only constant in life is change. When I was growing up my mother hated with a passion change : if the cookie jar broke it had to be replaced with one exactly like it, etc. Etc. So as a kid, I vowed to embrace change and go with the flow. Now, it doesn't mean I don't miss some parts of "the old" days, but look to the new opportunities.
Sounds like you developed a healthy relationship with change early in life!
My parents were the same age as everyone else's grandparents. Get told we are to old to change often enough and the rebel in me rose up!
Question for all of us: is change more welcome when we instigate it, when we choose it? I am 60, and nearly 2 years ago chose to end a 25 year relationship. It took me a while to make that change, but am now more active in my community and with my friends. I am happier!
What a huge change! Sounds like it worked out well. You might have something there--change we choose might be easier. In tarot one of the hardest cards is the Tower card. It's a tower being destroyed by lightning. The idea is that if there is a change you need to make but aren't making it, the Universe will do it for you and it will be difficult and traumatic. My mother had a Tower moment--she was really dragging her heels about moving from her house to an apartment, so the Universe did it for her.
Love that tip jar—lol.